Authored by: LinaJay on Wednesday, June 17 2009 @ 08:09 AM CDT

First things first. Welcome to the site Nikki!......Now.....It sounds like you have a lot of frustrations. And it looks like that you and your husband can't have a disagreement without blowing up at each other. Me and my fiancée used to be the same way but we had to set boundaries no matter how upset we were. No name calling, period! Don't bring up past problems or issues that we had that we already solved that we moved on from...and so forth. That would be my first suggestion but he doesn't seem like the type that would adhere to that. (After the statement was made about him acting like a teenager.) If that doesn't work then you have to ask yourself.....Do I really want this marriage to work? Do I really want to be with him? You maybe in love but it sounds like you're very unhappy! If you want the marriage to work then counseling might be your last resort. If you have an unbiased person there to show both of you what you are doing wrong and what you can do to improve it, it might work. But if not.....broken hearts heal, misery only lasts a short time but being in an unhappy relationship is not only unhealthy for you and him but also for the kids. There's no physical abuse but there's mental. And you feel that abused children grow up to abuse. If they see the mental abuse between you and your husband...guess what? ...it's your turn...if you want to make it work, see a counselor, if not it's time to move on.

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