I’ve always believed that it is in a girl’s best interest to be comfortable with herself, to developed independence, self-reliance and relationships outside of a romantic nature. I believed that if you developed yourself as a person you can offer more in a relationship and intern expect more from your partner.
Problem is I’ve mastered all of the above to the point of BLISSFUL comfort. So much so that I am embarrassed to say how long it has been since I have been in a serious relationship. Having 2 jobs and being a homeowner is an excuse I have been using for not putting my social life as a priority.
I understand that for most people dating does not take that much effort. The problem is I HATE meeting new people. HATE IT. Not just men but anyone.
The prospect of getting to know someone new is undesirable for me. Sitting across a table to share the few restful hours I have with someone who is void of personality, egotistical, boring is something that I have no interest in doing.
In addition to this for 2009 I have met men who are unemployed, multiple children, living at home, no licence and yes on probation meaning that they are not allowed to leave the country.
I did not realize the seriousness of my dating situation until I found out that the BIG girl at work has a man and I don’t.
Being overweight is one thing she is another. Her arms kinda float aimlessly unable to touch the sides of her body. DAMN. Now that reality slapped me hard in the face.
So for 2010 I am going to make an effort to meet more people and actively get out and start dating. So much so I should be going on a date with someone my MOTHER has set me up with. You would realize the possible disaster if you knew stories about my mother but you will in time.
Looking forward to writing something soon and hearing your feedback.
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